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Andikufanelekanga: Iingcambu Zekhamu kunye nokuKhululwa

Ngaba uziva ngathi awunakufana, ungaphantsi, okanye awonelanga njengoko unjalo? Le mvakalelo yokungazalisekiyo, ingaba yimfihlo okanye ibonakala kakhulu, ingaba yinto enzima kakhulu ukuyithwala. Inokukwenza uzive ungazithembi, ungathandwa, kwaye ungaphumeleli. Kodwa ke, le nkolelo, \”Andikufanelekanga,\” ayisiyiyo yobu bomi kuphela. Ingaba yimemori yesiphelo esidala, into esiyithwele kwimiphefumlo yethu ukusuka kumava obomi bangaphambili. Kwi-Reincarnatiopedia, sihlalutya indlela ezi nkolelo zikhamu ziguqule ngayo indlela esiphila ngayo, kwaye sifumanise indlela yokuzikhulula ukuze siphile ubomi obutofotofo. [Iinkolelo kunye neKhamu](/beliefs/).

Ivela Phi Inkolelo ethi “Andikufanelekanga”?

Inkolelo ethi “Andikufanelekanga” ayiveli nje kwimithombo yayo. Ngokwengqondo, ingaba yimiphumo yokugxekwa, ukungaphumeleli, okanye ukungathandwa esengumntwana. Kodwa ukusuka kwimbono yokomoya, ingaba yimemori ephilayo yobomi bangaphambili. Imiphefumlo yethu iphathe iziphumo zamava apho uzive ungabalulekanga, ugwetyiwe, okanye wenze impazamo enkulu ebangele ukuba uzive ungazinzanga. Le nkolelo ingaba yimvelaphi yamava apho ubuziva ungathandwa njengomntwana, apho ubuziva ungabalulekanga kwintsapho yakho, okanye apho ubuziva unetyala ngezenzo zakho. Ezi ziphumo zenza umsebenzi wangaphakathi, kwaye xa singazibonanga, ziyaqhubeka ukuchaphazela ubomi bethu ngoku. Oku kunokudala imvakalelo yokuba awukwazi ukufikelela kwisiphelo sakho esipheleleyo. [Andizifanelanga uthando](/beliefs/i-am-not-worthy-of-love/), [Andifanelwanga luvuyo](/beliefs/i-don’t-deserve-happiness/), [Ndingumthwalo kwabanye](/beliefs/i-am-a-burden-to-others/), [Kufuneka ndibe ngumntu ogqibeleleyo](/beliefs/i-must-be-perfect/), [Ndingumntu owonakeleyo](/beliefs/i-am-fundamentally-broken/), [Andinakuthandwa](/beliefs/i-am-unlovable/), [Andinamandla](/beliefs/i-am-powerless/), [Andibalulekanga](/beliefs/i-don’t-matter/).

Indlela ethi “Andikufanelekanga” Iyingcamanga ngayo Ubomi Bakho

Le nkolelo ingaba yimvakalelo enkulu emva kwezinto ezininzi esizenzayo. Uza kuzifumana uzibeka phantsi ngalo lonke ixesha, uzama ukunceda abanye kodwa ungazibeki phambili. Kwiimeko ezininzi, oku kungaba yimvelaphi yokungazithembi, ukoyika ukusilela, kunye nokuziva ungazinzanga. Ungade ube nobunzima bokwamkela izinto ezintle, okanye ukukholelwa xa kukho umntu ekuxelela ukuba ubamkelele. Kwiimeko ezibi kakhulu, oku kungakhokelela kwimiba yempilo, njengokungazinyamezeli ngokwakho, okanye ukuzibeka kwimeko yobungozi. Iimvakalelo zokungazalisekiyo zinokuphazamisa ubudlelwane bakho, zikwenze uzive ungazinzanga okanye ungathandwa, kwaye unokuba nobunzima bokwakha ubudlelwane obunempilo nobomntu. [Andizifanelanga uthando](/beliefs/i-am-not-worthy-of-love/), [Andifanelwanga luvuyo](/beliefs/i-don’t-deserve-happiness/), [Ndingumthwalo kwabanye](/beliefs/i-am-a-burden-to-others/), [Kufuneka ndibe ngumntu ogqibeleleyo](/beliefs/i-must-be-perfect/).

Ukuphilisa i “Andikufanelekanga” ngokusebenzisa iRegression

Ukukhulula le nkolelo ekhawulezayo, kufuneka siye kwimvelaphi yayo, apho ingcambu yayo ikhona. Ukukhumbula ubomi bangaphambili kunye neenkqubo zokukhulula iikhamu zinokuba yindlela enokwenzeka yokwenza oku. Ngokusebenzisa i-regression, ungafikelela kwimemori yobomi bangaphambili apho le nkolelo yaqala khona. Ngokubona imeko kwaye uyiqonde, ungaqala ukuyikhulula. Oku akukona nje ukukhumbula, kodwa kukwanika imvakalelo yokuxolelwa nokwamkelwa. Xa sele ukhulule le nkolelo, uza kuqala ukuziva ukhululekile, uzithembe, kwaye uvuyela ubomi bakho. Uza kuba nomdla wokuzibeka phambili, uthande ubomi bakho, kwaye wakhe ubudlelwane obunempilo nobomntu. Oku kunokukhokelela kwimvakalelo yokuzaliseka, uvuyo, kunye nempumelelo kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bakho. I-regression, njengoko kuchaziwe kwi [Iinkolelo neKhamu](/beliefs/), inokukunceda kakhulu.

FAQ

Ivela Phi Inkolelo ethi “Andikufanelekanga”?

Le nkolelo ingavela kumava obomi bangaphambili apho uzive ungathandwa, ungabalulekanga, okanye wenze impazamo enkulu eyabangela ukuba uzive ungazinzanga. Ingakwazi ukudala imvakalelo yokungafaneleki ngoku.

Ithini into ethi “Andikufanelekanga” kwimpilo yakho nobudlelwane bakho?

Iyakubangela ukungazithembi, ukoyika ukusilela, kunye nokuzibeka phantsi. Uza kuzifumana uhlala uzibeka kwindawo yesibini, ungakwazi ukwamkela izinto ezintle, kwaye ube nobunzima ekwakheni ubudlelwane obunempilo.

Ngaba ubomi bangaphambili bungadala inkolelo ethi “Andikufanelekanga”?

Ewe, kakhulu. Imiphefumlo iphathe iziphumo zamava angaphambili. Ukuba ubudlala ngaphambili ubuziva ungabalulekanga, ugwetyiwe, okanye ungathandwa, le nkolelo ingadluliselwa ebomini bakho ngoku.

Ungayikhulula njani inkolelo ekhawulezayo ethi “Andikufanelekanga”?

Ukukhulula le nkolelo kufuna ukuqonda iingcambu zayo, mhlawumbi ngokusebenzisa iindlela zokukhumbula ubomi bangaphambili, kunye nokuziqhelisa uthando olunye nolwamkelo.

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